A GUY came round to pick up a television I was selling on eBay and within the week we were having the hottest sex.
My sister has moved abroad and left me a load of her stuff to clear, including a TV which this man won the bid for.
He lived close enough to come and collect it. He seemed a nice guy — and he was fit too.
He asked if he could come in to see some of the other things I was selling, including a power drill and a few other tools.
I said I was just going to have a coffee and asked if he would like one too.
We started chatting and he told me he was married.
He said they had a child of 11 months but that he and his wife weren’t getting on.
He said he was living with his brother and getting a divorce. He is 27. I’m 25 and single.
We swapped phone numbers and were soon texting each other constantly. It got very sexy.
He called round one evening a few days later.
He said he was in the area and wondered if the offer of a coffee was still open. I invited him in and we opened a bottle of wine instead.
The chemistry between us was electric and we ended up having sex. It was fantastic.
From then on we have seen each other most days. It’s been like a real relationship.
I wanted us to go out somewhere but he says we must be careful until his divorce comes through because he doesn’t want anything to hold that up, which I totally understood.
Then my neighbour said she had noticed his car outside my house one day.
She said she knows him and that he is not just married but still living with his wife.
I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he never wants to have that conversation.
He said we should just enjoy what we have together.
I would never have got involved with him if I had known the truth but now I have started seeing him, I just can’t stop.
DEIDRE SAYS: Yes, you can stop – otherwise you will continue being the other woman in a dead-end affair.
He has lied to you from the word go and he is almost certainly lying to his wife too.
It’s hard if you’ve fallen for him but he has made it clear there is no future for you with him.
He won’t even talk to you about it. He just wants things to go on as they are, without any commitment.
He has the luxury of having his wife and child at home and you waiting whenever he feels like it.
He is not going to change that willingly and the longer you let it go on, the longer he will.
Finish with him now before you get too badly hurt. My e-leaflet Your Lover Not Free? will help.
