I’M having sex with two different guys. I’m in love with both of them and I know they have feelings for me too. I can’t resist either of them.
I’m 25 and a single parent with a little boy of one.
I met the first guy through work about three years ago but he got a promotion and had to move 200 miles away.
I congratulated him and wished him well but inside I was gutted. He is 24. We stayed in touch and he was lovely when I got pregnant — by a different guy who didn’t want to know.
We sext and chat on FaceTime as often as we can, and he always comes to see me if he is back here. We have awesome sex whenever we are together but lately all he seems to want to talk about is us having threesomes with other girls and even men too.
I find it disturbing as I don’t think it’s right.
The other guy I know from back in our school days. We have been seeing each other for almost a year now. We met at a mutual friend’s birthday party. He’s 26. The sex with him is brilliant.
He’s a great lover and really knows what works. He comes round mine most evenings after he’s seen his mates.
I have started to develop strong feelings for him.
But he has just told me that he is now getting into a relationship with another girl, someone he met while on a night out, which devastated me.
He’s been upfront about her and says he will never stop loving me even if he gets married to someone else. But hearing that just confused me even more.
I feel guilty because I know it is wrong for me to be seeing two guys at once but I can’t choose between them. I am starting to think that maybe neither of them is the right one for me.
But on the other hand I can’t bear the thought of breaking it off with either of them.
DEIDRE SAYS: You’re right, neither of them is your Mr Right. These are dead-end affairs going nowhere.
Neither of these men has put you first in their life.
I understand it is hard to find opportunities to meet someone new when you are a single parent, but these guys are just using you.
They are not offering you anything and that will be eating into your self-esteem despite the short-term buzz of the great sex.
You deserve someone who will really care for you and give you 100 per cent.
Respect yourself enough to hold out for what you know you really want — a full-on relationship.
