My best mate thinks her fella is cheating but has no idea it's with me

I’M having an affair with my best mate’s boyfriend. She suspects that he’s cheating on her but has no idea it’s with me.

They’ve been together for a year and it started off well but it seems like he’s got a bit bored.

She’s 23 and he’s 24. I’m 22 and much better looking than she is. People say I’m more fun too.

I met her boyfriend in a club on a night my friend had stayed home. She isn’t too keen on the drinking and clubbing scene.

He looked really pleased to see me and bought me a drink. We stayed at the bar chatting while our mates hit the dance floor.

As the evening went on, he gradually got closer to me and I felt sure that he fancied me loads. I suddenly realised that I liked him too.

We had a bit more to drink and then smooched to a slow song. His kisses were really hot.

At the end of the evening he came back to my place. We couldn’t hold back and we had the most special and magical sex. Now we meet up every week and have sex every time. I’m in love and I’m sure he is too.

He tells my mate that he’s seeing his mum on the nights he sees me but we both know she isn’t convinced.

Last night she told me she’s sure he’s cheating on her. She asked my advice and I said that if that was her gut feeling, she was probably right. I told her the best thing she could do would be to dump him — but I only really said that because I want him all to myself.

I feel bad about this but what I told her was true. What else could I do? I’m worried this will be end of my friendship with her.

DEIDRE SAYS: I’m afraid you don’t sound to me like you’re much of a friend. If you cared about her then you wouldn’t be acting this way.

Don’t let this cheating go on any more. Tell this man that he has to decide who he wants to be with.

If it’s you he prefers, then the honest and kind thing to do is to tell his girlfriend he’s sorry but the relationship has run its course and it’s time to go their separate ways.

If he wants to be with her, then don’t be his piece on the side. Tell him that you deserve better than this and find someone who’s free.

Ask yourself if you could ever really trust a man who you know lies and cheats in this way.

But maybe you don’t want a forever love and a casual affair suits you fine. Perhaps you’ve been hurt in the past and a casual, exciting affair feels much safer for you.

Do think this all through carefully before making any final decisions.