Question: I adore one of my friend's wife. She is genuinely a nice person. But my wife is quite harsh towards her. She keeps on commenting on her lifestyle and has told her on her face how her inability to cook will help another woman to woo her husband's heart. I have started telling my wife to refrain from some mean comments, but now she has started suspecting that I hold special feelings for her. I am confused how to handle this situation.
Answer by Dr Samir Parikh: After letting your wife know that these kind of comments are harsh, you should take a back seat and not keep repeating the same thing, as that would naturally make your wife perturbed, more so, it is also possible that she may be feeling uncomfortable with the attention that you are giving this person, so it's best to give your wife the space after sharing your views. Let her have the space to understand and bring a self change in her behaviour.
It's important to realise that this person is an outsider to your family unit, and too much focus on her would only affect your family unit negatively. Also, it's important for you to introspect the relationship your share with your wife, and ensure that you give it importance and time, and not let things deteriorate.
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