LAST weekend I brought a guy home and the sex was great but I couldn’t wait for him to leave in the morning. And that’s my pattern now.
He’s 25 and the fifth guy I’ve had sex with over the past month. Now I’m juggling them all.
I just want to have fun and play the field after getting out of an abusive relationship but am I spiralling out of control?
I’m a 26-year-old good-looking (or so I’m told) girl.
I split up with my bullying boyfriend two months ago.
As soon as I started dating I found I make an instant connection with guys.
Two of the five I’ve had sex with are already falling for me.
The others say they think I’m amazing. I get on with every guy I meet and they seem to really enjoy my company.
But I love it a bit too much. I am having sex every other day. I enjoy having these guys eat out of the palm of my hand, trying their best to see me again. It’s not too difficult to juggle everything as they are all free on different days.
I can’t control myself and if I find myself alone I’ll message all five guys and ask them to take me out, then I wait to see which one replies first.
Two of them want to make me their girlfriend but I’m not a cheat and I don’t want that right now. I just want to have some fun.
I know I come across as only having eyes for them but I don’t know who I am, as I’m everyone’s cup of tea. I can change like a chameleon to suit the personality of the guy I’m with.
I don’t understand how it’s possible to click with so many different guys then get bored and start looking for even more men to date.
Please help me before I get out of hand.
DEIDRE SAYS: You must have been pretty miserable in your last relationship. It’s left you fearing any sort of commitment and so now you avoid it by going to bed with every guy you meet.
While it is flattering to have so many men fancy you, intimacy is very special and you are giving yourself away too cheaply.
You deserve to be loved and respected and anything less is not good enough.
Start believing that or your self-esteem will plummet.
Don’t hunt guys just for sex. Build friendships which will lead to real relationships.
From now on hold back on the sex until you know you’re with someone who really cares for you.
My e-leaflet Hooked On Casual Sex? will help you to think this through.
